One of the big mistakes people make when entering into a relationship is asking for assurance from their partner. You don't need assurance or a promise ring to marry. If they have what it takes to marry you, an assurance or a promise is irrelevant. It is those who are not likely to marry you who promise or assure you of marriage, especially because they want to date you. If you are ready for marriage and are going into a relationship or dating, the one you need is a man or woman who is ready, not someone who can promise you marriage. If you are ready for marriage bear in mind that a promise ring is useless and blood covenant is foolishness. In case you don't know, assurances are just empty speech, they don't make the marriage, it is a positive declaration intended to give confidence; a promise. A promise or assurance does not keep the relationship, not to talk of marriage. Wake up Please! When someone who is not ready promises you marriage, the outcome is a Broken Heart. Readiness is what you need. You need someone who is ready for marriage. Not someone who will be ready in the future. Someone who is ready now. Readiness is defined as the state of being fully prepared for something or willingness to do something. The man or woman who is ready for marriage does not need to assure or promise you marriage. Their actions, their commitment speak for themselves. You don't have to ask such a person to be serious with the relationship, for he or she is serious from the word go. The person has no time to waste, knows what he or she is looking for. They ask the right questions, tell you what you need to know and take the needed steps to introduce you to the people you need to know. It's an error to force a man or woman to take you to their family. It's an error to beg them to tell you when they will be ready for marriage. Because the right person is ready and knows what to do. If he or she is ready, it means they are fully prepared. They have what it takes to get married to you. They have what it takes to be a good spouse. They have what it takes to raise a family. They have what it takes to live together as a couple. They don't need to beg for time to be ready. It also means, he or she is willing to get married to you. If you have to force them to leave other men or women for you, then you are with the wrong person. If you have to force them to make time for you or communicate with you, then you are with the wrong person. You don't need to beg for attention, care, love, etc. You are a priority and should be treated as such. They go out loud for you and are committed, responsible and mature. They have no room for games. They are serious but fun to be with. In conclusion, "Like billowing clouds that bring no rain is the person who talks big but never produces" - Proverbs 25:14 Written by Danjuma Iliya.