Part of human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. en.wikipedia.org
What is the Purpose of Dating?
The sole purpose of dating is to get a mate that you will understand each other, care for each other, think alike, have the same goals and relate well. That is you are using that means to look for your SOUL MATE….. But It does not exist
Jer. 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
Matt 15:19"For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.
Right Principles of Dating/Friendship
My goal is to help us change our dating ideology. It is human idea and not divine.
1. Make it a time to explore other people around you.
2. Find out about yourself from other friends.
3. A time to help each other grow based on divine principles.
4. Take away the idea of looking for a mate from your mind and you make good friends.
5. It is time to love and serve each other.
6. Friendship will help grow each other's skills.
7. Decide not to make any move in the direction of courtship till you are convinced that you are ready to marry.
There is nothing like falling in love. Many People do not fall in love, but rather they fall in LUST! While few discount the importance of dating as a relational process, the idea of what it means to be dating in the United States has varied throughout time. In the 1800s, dating was referred to as “courtship” and involved an act—bland by today's standards—whereby a male paid a female a visit in her home, at a church social, or at a local dance.
A woman's parents supervised their daughter's visits with a potential suitor and even exerted control over when courtship turned to marriage by determining when land would be turned over to the couple or when the male would be allowed to work for his new family (see Cate & Lloyd, 1992). Courtships were intended to determine whether a man could support his wife and whether the man and woman were of similar social standing. Love was assumed to blossom after marriage.
But “love” was not tied to passion or romance; it reflected an openness, sincerity, and connection that would stand the test of time (Rothman, 1984). Nonetheless, it was expected that “proper” women avoided sexual contact, which could have social or biological consequences.
In 2000, 33% of babies were born to unmarried women, compared to only 3.8% in 1940. (More than 1/3 of children never experience a married home!)
50% of married women and 66% of married men in the U.S. commit adultery (combined, these statistics indicate that five out of six marriages—over 80%—involve at least one adulterous.
Divorced status in America is the fastest growing marital category. Between 1970 and 1996, the number of divorcees more than quadrupled, going from 4.3 million to 18.3 million.
What is Courtship/Betrothing?
Right Principles of Courtship
Being guided by the Parents, Preachers and the church. The Parents, the Preacher, the families and the church must be involved once you decided to start courtship. They are to guide and such relationship will lead to successful marriage. But if not, such reasons will made known to all concerned.
Carnal Relationship: What it is not and what it is Its Implications
Deception is always the key of Satan's weapon.
porneia is used (a) of "illicit sexual intercourse
Jesus definition of Fornication: Matt 5:28 'But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
LUST: denotes "strong desire" of any kind, the various kinds being frequently
a. Thy signet, Its impression was a sign of property and a means of security
b. Thy bracelets A sign or insignia of royalty
c. Thy staff: a sign of Authority.
RESULT OF DATING SOMETIMES END AT
4. Breaking of heart
6. Breaking of Relationship
7. Disobedience to God
8. Loosing of Career
9. Dropping from School
10. Separation from God and the church… by Denis Essien