Have you ever wondered why the man who was so much into you and so excited about you, has become cold towards you all of a sudden. He is always too busy for you and doesn't return your calls as he used to; doesn't seem to care about you like he used to, and yet when you ask what is wrong, he says nothing? Men in nature go hard for things they want. They chase it, praise it, show it off and are proud of it. You remember how Adam screamed when Eve was presented to him: “This is it!” Adam exclaimed. “She is part of my own bone and flesh! Her name is ‘woman’ because she was taken out of a man.” - Genesis 2:23 (TLB). A man may not be at his best but he might be trying his best for you; what hurts him the most is when you don't appreciate his efforts, yet you are bold to compare him to your ex. You lose him with this act of yours. He may not be riding the latest car or having a big mansion but one thing is for sure, he wants you, only you; and he thinks that is better than a fairytale for that might not come to pass. Men hate it when the woman in his life doesn't appreciate the things he does for her. Such a man is completely to distant from you. Men don't want the women in their lives to order them about, telling him what to do. You are my helper and for that fact, you don't run the show. Men tend to run away from a woman who doesn't respect them, who talks to them anyhow and feels like responding to them when they are in the mood. Men stand at a distance away from a woman who doesn't criticize him constructively, a lady who irritates them. They want their women to be their cheer leaders, the motivational pack, just as you see in primary school; the boys go out loud to score when they have girls on the sideline cheering them on. A man can become what you want just by praising him. Men run from women who think they are smarter, a sucker who is selfish and always thinking of what she is gaining. Men want helpers and not killers. If you can't help him build but rather drain, he feels safer alone than being with you.In conclusion, a good woman "Her words are sensible, and her advice is thoughtful" - Proverbs 31:26 (CEV). - By Danjuma Iliya.