My dear single, i want to counsel you here on your act of desperation about getting married. Most girls become so desperate in life about marriage, with the saying; women have no time like the men. Again, they cite menopause as another reason for their desperation while others became desperate for the fact that their friends, junior sisters, neighbour have gotten married. This decision has catapulted many girls in grave consequences, some which ridiculously untamed their lives with dangerous scars forever. In the name of getting married so desperately, some girls have slept with over thousand men to no avail. Unfortunately however, some men (including myself) have done the experiments, sampling one girl to another for years without grasping one to settle down with. A girl once confessed to me that she started searching for a husband at the age of Eighteen, sleeping with both young, middle and aged men in the name of marriage. While narrating the story, tears rolled down her cheek, she paused for a while and continued, "it’s so unfortunate that men hardly recognized my salient beautiful qualities both character and physical wise. At 29 i haven't found a man to marry me she said". The lady resolved to marry any man that comes for her just for marriage sake. Men have broken many girls hearts, they will reposed confidence in a girl by being the nicest person on earth at the beginning of courtship, giving the girl window of hope she had found a husband. The girl would commits her finance, body, virtually everything, endure and sometimes bear insults from family members or friends who consider such a man not good enough for her. Also, having chased away other good suitors to maintain commitment to the marriage project, sadly, the man would tend to be fed up with the girl and shamelessly chases her away. I always opined that women are the most honest and committed variable in a relationship or marriage, just a handful of them tend to be spurious. Pitifully, most girls experienced such unscrupulous shenanigan in countless relationships yet, they kept trying. And it is not easy to be heartbroken, I experienced it once then I vowed to never offer my heart and love entirely for a woman, to avoid such excruciating plight. Indeed, that was the reason that catapulted me in the channel of womanizing (womanization), I took delight in using and dumping women like some pieces of shit (and this is the kind of life many young men, including some old men have found themselves in today) Men now use this girls stupidly hence they have little money and the key of conversing them from 'Miss to Mrs'.Men have taken the advantage of our sisters desperation for marriage to render some of them useless. I advise you my sister today, that once you cohabit or dates a man up to a year without visible traces of marriage, direction and seriousness, kindly quit quietly and continue with your search but not desperately. You could just imagine men's wickedness and girls short sightedness due to love, a man would engage a girl with a ring and she carries the toga of 'am engaged' for over 5years without introduction to either parents. Sometimes, the best they could offer the girl for her commitment is just to get her pregnant and despicably accept the child but refuses to marry her. On my part, I thank God Almighty for rescuing and releasing me from the shackles of Satan. I have stopped womanizing for over two years now, equally, I quits taking alcohol while I had never tasted cigarette in my life. Consequently, my friends deserted me, calling me names. At first, they doubted my ability to cease, especially, womanizing and alcohol hence I was so addicted to both but the grace of God has seen me through. I feel so refreshed. I now save money in my bank account unlike before. Therefore, I sincerely enjoin my dear sisters to shun desperation, materialism, competition with peers and cling on God who is the giver of life and wealth. Desperation sometimes led to frustration, especially when your heart desire is not achieved. This has led many young girls to untimely deaths, prostitution, abortion, regret in marriage, depression amongst others. Let nobody deceives you my sister, that you are aging, as long as you commune with God over the matter. Different destinies, some women and men gets married at their prime age, others marry in their olden age while God has destined other people to be celibates for life. Just pray and identify God's purpose to your life. It is indeed, a painful reality that not every woman will give birth to children and not every woman that will get married. - By Danjuma Iliya.