The beast of divorce doesn’t need too many invitations. Words can build marriages, and words can tear marriages apart. Two people as husband and wife can leave in the same house, eat from the same pot, sleep on the same bed, drive in the same car, wear the same attire, and still don’t have intimate relationship as husband and wife. As a matter of fact, many couples who don’t share intimacy, practice divorce in disguise until it occurs physically. They do not practice “couple mindset”, which is absolutely necessary to produce the fusion required after being joined together. Husband and wife are simply joined at the wedding ceremony, but fuse together through mutual bonding. Wedding is one day ceremony, while marriage is a life-time process of cleaving. Communication is the only key through which a marriage can be properly built or torn apart. These could either be verbal or non-verbal words in nature. Every broken marriage passes through the heat of negative words, and they may sound like these: “I am tired of this marriage; I regret marrying him (her); you are the greatest tragedy in my life; I work as a slave to please him; she’s the toughest witch I have come across; I can’t forgive her for breaking our covenant; I can’t wait for him to die, so I can re-marry; there’s nothing more she could offer me sexually; she’s not productive, after all I had a child after wed-lock”, etc. Many of such words have been the reasons why Satan moved in to destroy many homes. You don't have to allow him. A young lady who had wanted to divorce her husband, (having realized that it wasn't God who was leading her to do so) went to see her pastor one day with her husband and said, "Pastor, please forgive me for not listening to you in wanting to divorce my husband. Her pastor said to her, "It wasn't you, it was the devil." This reminds me of the time when Peter was trying to dissuade Jesus from His journey to the cross; "Then Peter took him, and began to rebuke him, saying, Be it far from thee, Lord: this shall not be unto thee. But he turned, and said unto Peter, Get thee behind me, Satan: thou art an offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men." (Matthew 16:22-23 KJV)
This divorce-beast doesn’t need too many invitations. It slips in through an open door. Satan has been defeated and Christ has given us authority over him.(Lk 10:18,19; Mtt 18:18). Satan-the old serpent was cursed in the garden and God commanded "dust shall thou eat all the days of thy life" (Gen 3:14). God told Adam (Man specie) "unto dust shall thou return" (Gen 3:19). When man gives in to his fleshly desires, he gives Satan some food (dust) and this strengthens him to overcome man. "To be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace". (Rom 8:6).
STOP this beast now by confessing faith/healthy words-Philippians 4:8. Live on the word of God and make your spirit far heavier than your flesh/feelings. Put God's life back into your marriage. Deny this venomous beast of his mission in your home. If your marriage has been pushed to a dangerous suicidal ledge of divorce, there's still hope for you. WHAT TO DO (Stop this Beast. Save your Marriage and save many marriages)
Finally, keep the word of God in your marriage and in your mouth. Let it be your guiding motive, healing will come to your marriage as you deliberately trust God to help you handle every situation. Written By Pastor Chris Ikebuwa.