Many at times guys wonder why the lady they have spent so much on left them for someone else. Little do they know that women can't follow a man who doesn't know how to lead them. A leader leads by example not by ordering or controlling. Why will she stay when all you show her is hurt, pain, and refusal to learn about her but rather pushing yourself on her. Making yourself a saint whilst she feels like the devil you got involved with. It is bad news to guys if a woman cannot cook, so many guys think the best way to determine her cooking skills is for her to come over and cook for him. It is a disaster if she can't clean or wash, so these days guys want the ladies they are dating to come over and wash their dirty clothes, clean the house they have messed up just to be assured they are with the right woman. Their criteria for a wife material is someone who can cook, wash, clean their home, have sex with them, has a job, is earning, etc. Ladies who don't know what it takes to be a wife material end up playing victim to these requests, yet their relationships still don't work. They are not married either. They are treated badly until the only option is to leave. Well, the problem is not the ladies as some make them believe. It is the absence of good leadership. Instead of ladies objecting to such demands and rather questioning these guys, they end up doing the dirty work which earns them positions such as Ex, Used and dumped. A wise woman will rather ask "do you know how to cook?, Now that you are single, do you cook or buy from the street? When we get married, can you make me breakfast in bed when I am sick? Did you learn how to do laundry from your mother? Who does your laundry? How much do you earn? Can you take care of the house, pay the bills and provide for me? What kind of work do you do? Is your money legal? Do you know much about cars? Can you fix my car or change oil? Is God your friend or is He your visitor? What kind of books do you read? What is the title of the last book you read? Do you live a life of spending or saving? What are your addictions? Have you been able to kill what you are addicted to? What efforts are you making if you have not? Truth be told, many women don't ask any of these questions, thinking that asking will push the man away. A man who has a good resume will smile at you and answer all, but the one with a bad resume will get angry and leave. These are questions that will tell you, you are taking the right decision or not, if he is real or pretending. A guy who will lie to you on things like these cannot be honest with you, he can't lead you, he can't be a good husband, so don't trust your future with him. Fall for someone who is real with you, don't fall for looks. Fall for a character for that is how he will treat you. His look is just as good for the mirror and camera. In conclusion, a man who sees you as a wife won't lie to you. "You should be faithful to your wife, just as you take water from your own well" - Proverbs 5:15 (CEV).