Often times we become bitter, sad and depressed because things didn't go the way we wanted. The cute guy didn't marry me; that beautiful lady left me for someone else. Since I have already wasted so much of my time with him, he must marry me at all cost. All these painful outcomes tell us the importance of time at the end of a relationship. The way we measure the success of a relationship varies from the actual success. No bad relationship is ever a waste of time. It only means that it took you that long to realize the relationship was not worth continuing. Such relationships give you lessons, experiences and memories money can never buy. So instead of holding on to someone you know isn’t right for you after you have found out, or living with regret and self-pity because you dated someone for many years only to find out they are not who you think they are, rather be happy and thankful to God that you didn't exchange the phrase “for better for worse". It took the United States of America more than ten years to get hold of the dead body of Osama bin Laden, and for the fact that they spent those long years and resources doesn't make them a failure, not even if the goal was to catch him alive. The fact that the Mr. Right you dreamt about all these years turned out to be Mr. Wrong, should not make you a failure. Even if they chose someone over you, I still urge you to be happy. The truth is, you could be a great man or woman and yet not be someone’s choice of a spouse. Going your separate ways is a win for you both; a win which will allow you to meet the right person. So don't waste your energy trying to win them over. You were not chosen but you still remain a great candidate, and remember that some people settle for less. It's your goal to learn, not to teach or enforce. Don't spend your time thinking about the past or the memories you shared. No matter how often or how much you visit your past, there is absolutely nothing new there. The new lies ahead of you, which is your future. If you don't let go of the past, you won't welcome the future. Don't let the past make you a coward, don't be scared of falling in love again, be rather scared of giving the power to the wrong person. Let the lessons from your past relationship guide you to the right person. What you are referring to as the worst time of your life is actually the best, because it offered you the opportunity to see the true colour and the true nature of the people you loved and cared for. In conclusion "So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise" - Ephesians 5:15 (NLT). -By Danjuma Iliya.